Personalized Tributes

There are different elements that combine to create a meaningful funeral. Some elements to consider, whether at a formal place of worship or at the funeral home are:

  • Visitation/Reception
  • Video Tribute 
  • Memorial Cards or Folders
  • Military Honors
  • Photographs
  • Symbols
  • Readings
  • Music
  • Eulogy
  • Actions
  • Gathering/Luncheon

 

Visitation/Reception

  • People live in a community and few of us are completely isolated from others. The time of visitation is an opportunity for family, friends and community to gather and support one another with words of sympathy and kindness. Not only is this a good thing for the grieving family, but also for those who come to visit, for they too grieve in their own way. In that wonderful meeting healing begins to take root and grow.
  • A visitation can be scheduled no matter what method of disposition (burial, entombment, cremation) a family chooses. A visitation does not have to be accompanied by a funeral or memorial service. Even if it is for only a short period of time, we feel the time of visitation (wake) is a very important time for many.

 

Video Tribute

  • A touching display of photographs set to music is a wonderful way to evoke sentiments and give guests a starting point to share memories and express feelings.

 

Memorial Cards and Folders

  • A small card with a picture of your loved one, a symbol of your loved one or his/her faith and perhaps, a favorite poem or Scripture verse can be a great momento for service attendees. There are endless ways to create the perfect card or folder for your family.

 

Military Honors

  • Military honors are available to all veterans regardless of rank or location of burial.

 

Photographs

  • Families enjoy sharing their memories and moments with friends. We supply picture easels, tables and whatever else your family might need to display framed pictures and photoboards.

 

Symbols

  • One of the most common symbols used at a funeral is flowers. Flowers represent love, beauty and support. A family will often choose flowers for an arrangement that represent something special about the deceased such as favorite color, favorite season or the characteristic a specific flower symbolizes (i.e. red rose means “love”). Accepting flowers from friends and family is a way to show you accept their support. 
  • A family may bring symbols that signify hobbies or interests important to the deceased such as a cross stitch project, a baseball glove or a picture of a beloved pet.

 

Readings

  • A piece of Scripture, a poem or an inspirational quote read during a service can help capture the essence of the deceased or the feelings of the funeral audience. It can help those in attendance reflect and mourn.

 

Music

  • Music can reach people to a place and depth that words sometimes cannot. A message within a song can soothe one’s heart or help express an emotion. 
  • The use of music and/or hymns for the funeral service is an important part of memorialization. Music used should be meaningful to those who listen and inspiring so as the listeners can resolve feelings of grief they have over the loss of the deceased. Sometimes music chosen that the deceased liked a lot is not as effective as music chosen that the people need to hear.
  • A bagpiper or soloist can be an elegant way to pay tribute to someone.

 

Eulogy/Remembrance

  • A eulogy is a speech given, usually at a funeral or memorial service, that commemorates and celebrates the life of the deceased. A eulogy should not last more than 5 to 7 minutes.
  • The first two questions to think about and discuss when preparing to deliver a eulogy are:
  • When will the eulogy be read?
    • Many places of worship, to a family’s surprise, do not allow a eulogy to be read during the funeral service itself. There are other times when a eulogy can be read such as the committal ceremony or during the luncheon.
  • Who will read the eulogy?
    • A eulogy can be a beautiful touch to a funeral service. While a person close to the deceased usually writes the eulogy, oftentimes that person is too emotionally involved to deliver it. We recommend asking a good family friend or distant relative to read it.

Actions

  • Involving those close to the deceased in some type of symbolic action can help give those mourning a role in the service and feel that they are contributing in a meaningful way. A balloon release, a candle lighting or blowing bubbles at the cemetery are just a few examples of actions that can add depth to a service.

 

Gathering

  • Ultimately, the funeral service is celebrating the time we spent with our loved one. Some families choose to continue the celebration with a gathering at a restaurant, banquet room or even, at the family’s home.